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Whenever you think your well being is dependent on the
behavior of others, you lose your power. The other day
I felt I needed an apology from my husband and when it
wasn't forthcoming I went into sulk mode. After a huffy
night's sleep and a semi-masochistic workout, it hit me!
Wait a minute, I hate sulk mode, and my life is too
fabulous to play in Sulksville. For what? To wait for
my husband to apologize? I know my husband, and I KNOW
he was not happy with his frustration in a circumstance
that he ended up aiming at me. I KNEW he was sorry. So
why did I need to hear him tell me he was sorry? True it
does our hearts good to hear a heartfelt apology, but our
feeling better should never depend on an apology.

If someone hurts your feelings, it's really their problem
for being hurtful. And if they don't apologize it's their
problem for not being able to apologize! It's only your
problem if you let your feelings be hurt. It's only your
problem if you have to have an apology to get on with life.
The funny thing about my epiphany is that I shared it with
my husband. I told him that I knew he was truly sorry for
his little temper outburst and that he is such a love most
of the time (he probably displays a quarterly outburst on
a bad year) that he need never worry about apologizing to
me EVER. He said, "You mean you've granted me an apology
free life with you?" "Yes siree!"

Now here is the amazing thing that happened: he actually
apologized three times during our conversation. Once I made
it very clear that I did not need an apology, it freed him
to give not one, but three! I think there's a bigger lesson
in this. When EVER we are in needy mode it is harder to get
what we need. When we are free of needing and just know all
is well, then all is well!
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Natalie,
Darlin that is a very good post and is something all of us can learn from. Actually you have never posted a bad post from where I am sitting. I will never ever forget your first post here, I said to myself her is a women that knows her mind and is not afread to speak her mind, she has good common since and is going to be one of best memebers ever. I for one am very proud to have ya with us of course I was the first day, I doubt I will ever change my mind.
Of the many friends that we have made here this past year, I believe we are all glad that you have come here with us to share your words of thought your words of wisedon. As you learn from us we also learn from you, thank you for sharing part of your life and marrage with us.
 

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quote:Originally posted by Snuffy

Natalie,
Darlin that is a very good post and is something all of us can learn from. Actually you have never posted a bad post from where I am sitting. I will never ever forget your first post here, I said to myself her is a women that knows her mind and is not afread to speak her mind, she has good common since and is going to be one of best memebers ever. I for one am very proud to have ya with us of course I was the first day, I doubt I will ever change my mind.
Of the many friends that we have made here this past year, I believe we are all glad that you have come here with us to share your words of thought your words of wisedon. As you learn from us we also learn from you, thank you for sharing part of your life and marrage with us.
Snuffy, your sentiments really touched me and then I had to wipe my eyes and it was all your doing. Thank you.
 

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Your very much welcome, as long as there tears of joy I am happy to be of some service to you Ma'am. By having you as a friend I have become an even richer man than I was before.
 

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You're a rare and wonderful woman, and those forgiven can forgive best...thank you for that timely reminder...sent through you from the One who came that we might all be forgiven....glad you're part of our family...hug your husband and have a Joyfull Christmas!!!
 
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